One of my mother's favorite "I know so much better than you" quotes to squander upon my bold boy being brutal mind... I didn't believe it then and I still don't. I grew up fighting, and that was a good thing. Watch most mammals you Evolutionists and see the dominate males snap, push and shove the younger males into line - playfully, until they later have to drive them off to keep the fertile females for themselves. For those looking for religious reasons for little Johnny to fight it is in almost every religious text, myth and fairy tale. Fighting for the benefit of the pride, the clan, the community is heroic and necessary for the survival of the species, so God and Science do approve.
So I have been worried about this constant chatter from the more wonderful thinking folks of the Left (mostly) that have zero tolerance for school yard squabbles. Force young boys to spend eight hours somewhere and not clench one's fists and toss a quick punch in frustration - why you might have to drug them into better behavior. Without the release of those fight and flee chemicals in violent conflict you could get some sick puppies -- now I do know the difference between fighting and killing, and I don't hold with the young folks running around killing each other, but then I see someone that hasn't fought jumping to picking up guns and blasting bullets as the only way to settle those strange thoughts, so sad.
If you fight, with fists and fury, you will often lose and that is an important lesson. If you fight you will notice that bigger, smarter, faster and competent makes a big difference but ready and willing still counts. You will notice after large numbers of attitude adjustments that sometimes diplomacy is required to live to fight another day, that the kid with guts that stood up to your best punches and kept coming is exactly your type of guy and if you were old enough you would buy a beer for him - so he might become your best buddy instead. There are many male life lessons that depend on the fighting and the growth of other ways to settle conflicts - which only come from fighting in that famous free school - the School of Hard Knocks.
About the picture - around Christmas 1968, I am twenty and a sergeant and I left my date twice to go outside and fight at the Battery party. She thought that a little strange. In 1993 at another formal function (Senior NCOs, Officers and dates) another Command Sergeant Major asked my wife if she would like to dance, she said he would have to ask her husband, her husband asked him if he would like to fight before or after the dance, he didn't - so my wife had no dance and I got no fight, sigh. The proper answer was to fight after the dance... I do wonder if those that want to have only peace understand the light that a woman might have in her eyes when her man is fighting for her and the things they believe in... ah, I only know a little about the fighting and nothing about the romance stuff, but I do think there could be a connection...
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Excellent post! Wish some of those folks in power would listen to you and realize.
A friend of mine had to take his 14yr old son to his first fight with the local bully. The bully hid behind his daddy's back. But by his son just being willing to fight gave the bully boy a inkling of his bad behavior. Much improved now, by the way.
Me? I realized long ago that kids need to fight and make up many times during their youth, otherwise they will never know how to get along with those who like to torment others. Though, I did tell my children that "they had better not start a fight, but by golly if one was started, they had better finish it."
Much like my Dad did with us when we were children. Worked for us and mine...
One of the best you've written and you've written many, many good ones. I enjoyed it thoroughly, but I've been told "You like to fight, don't you?"
All The Best,
Frank W. James
You gotta quit rocking the boat with common sense actually based on the human experience, Earl. Modern day common sense is based on a utopian fantasy of how certain people want human's to be, dontcha know.
I was shocked to hear a presentation at my kid's school. The official proudly described the school's zero tolerance rules, even to the point that if a kid fights back to protect himself he's in as much trouble as the agressor. With a good possibility of a childhood criminal record that won't ever completely go away.
Absolutely nuts ... my experience is that bully's don't care about rules, and that learning to fight back hard even when you lose is one of the most important lessons to carry with you through life. Biggest lesson I learned, that translates to adult life in every environment, is that a one time beating is 100times less painful than constant humiliation, and bullies never come back for seconds.
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